Comments on: Do We Need to Be Selfish to Be Successful?

By: Maggie

Maggie — Sun, 26 Dec 2010 06:03:17 +0000

I think that everyone has different definitions, convictions, and judgments. If we are thinking that women are such and such a way – look at how men are such and such a way – consider that both sexes can be this or that way and throw all the world’s judgments to the delete key and decide for yourself what is best for everyone – sometimes this thing may appear to be selfish – but if you don’t have the courage to be what some judge as selfish – what other little girl will?

By: Thursday

Thursday — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 20:33:07 +0000

I think that in order to be a successful person, one must put their needs first! we are trained from childhood to thru college to multitask and do what everyone requests of us, but when does that end??? it never ends until you put your foot down and realize that
you have goals and things that you have to accomplish outside of what others have to offer you… and then you have to find a way to make it happen…

By: Paul O

Paul O — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 16:46:39 +0000

If the goal and objective is to be successful and prosper, what comes to my mind is the application of Good virtues not the practice of “selfishness”. Selflessness, is inspirating and service to mankind. I amm aware of over 100 good virtues that will empower indivduals to grow as a person and keep in cheek the guilt feeling. Effectiveness and efficiency that are grounded in truthfulness are beneficial to the culture and the world that we are all focusing on advancing, whether it’s equality, justice and quest for fullfilment as an individual. Yes it is a competitive world, daily preparation and constant virtue accumulation in practice not principle get us ready for the moment. Everyone has the capacity to be successful. “Freedom is the source of all happiness and creativity”.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 00:46:50 +0000

I agree! We need to focus on our needs first before we take care of everyone else at work. It has taken me years to learn this in work and personal life. I find that when I address my own needs first, it clears up the space that I need to be able to help others. I used to be caught up worrying that people would perceive me as selfish, but I soon learned that as long as I’m mindful/aware not to be selfish, that my behavior will automatically regulate away from selfishness.

By: Scarlett de Courcier

Scarlett de Courcier — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 14:16:32 +0000

Bonnie, this is a brilliant post, so true! I am guilty of all of the above – I feel terrible if I don’t go far beyond my duty at work, taking on other people’s workloads. It’s crazy, but it feels so natural that I don’t even realise it might be detrimental.