I use it every day. The more I find myself engaged in relationships that cross both personal and professional boundaries, the less I try to resist. I can also say that the advent of social networking has made building true friendships easier at work where once a line was drawn. And dropping a “love ya,” or a “sending you love” comment seems to soften those lines even more. Facebook made me do it, I’ll say. Facebook made me love these people!
I enjoy telling people I love them. I think people need to hear it more often. I feel good knowing that if you or I got hit by a bus tomorrow you would know that I truly cared. I see people hurting in the workplace; whether it be health reasons, family woes or car troubles, and if I think they need an “I’m sorry and I love you,” by golly I’m giving it to them. The bad news is we’ve become such a nation of political correctness that it’s inappropriate to tell people you love them at work. And just like Roberta Flack, I ask, “Where Is the Love?”
Sadly, it’s left Corporate America…and even more disconcerting are the stats that we spend more time with the people we work with than we do with the people we live with. Reports say that the average full-time worker spends 9.3 hours at, and commuting to, work versus the 1.8 hours per day of quality time in the home. Of that “quality time,” .31 hours of it is spent watching television. Seems to me that a little love just might be what’s missing from the mix.
I was once reprimanded at a corporate job for calling a list of required items needed for a loan closing, a “love note.” Anyone who had ever done business with me knew it was my personal way of lightening up the ugly list of items being requested (demanded) by the underwriters, i.e., 2 years tax returns; 2 months bank statements, pay stubs, etc. Calling it a love note, then asking for all the required documents somehow made the gathering more pleasurable if you can call that task pleasurable. For me, it was an extension of the love and care I took in finding the right loan, positively communicating and making their experience one they’d tell their friends about. For corporate banking, however it was considered a recipe for a lawsuit. I say, losing that personal touch is what’s contributed to the demise of the American Dream…and the downfall of the big banks. The missing ingredient IS love–for what you do, how you do it and how you treat people along the way.
Okay, so you can’t go around telling people you love them all day because 1) they’d think you were certifiable, 2) they’d probably think you were selling Amway (not that there’s anything wrong with that) and 3) they probably are not prepared to reciprocate–which makes for some awkward silence–so here’s my solution:
Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the ways you can, in all the places you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can. As often as you can!
Not my words, but I think John Wesley, founder of the Methodist church, was onto something. The thought and intent behind his words fit any religion or lack thereof. I think his quote DEFINES love.
The basic premise behind the quote has to be the kind of principles this country, and its workforce, were founded on. I say if you can’t say it, show it; and if you can’t show it, sing it! As John, Paul, George and Ringo once said, “All You Need is Love!”