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Breaking the Stereotype Code: Do Women Really Talk Too Much?

November 2, 2009 By Sylvia Lafair

We have come a long way since we won the right to vote in 1921. In just about 90 years we are no longer barefoot and pregnant. We can go anywhere on the planet with or without a man at our side. We can be called “Ms.” To our men’s “Mr.” and the word spinster has become archaic. (What would be a name for an elder man who did not marry?) We’re finally becoming more equal in our leadership and our leadership development programs.

As of right now in 2009, women have a larger presence in the workforce than men. It is partly due to the economy, partly due to progress. While there is still a lot of change that has to take place for true equality it is important to understand and honor the differences between us and find the roots of stereotypes, both male and female.

Ever wonder how women got the stereotype that we talk too much? Maybe there is some deep truth here we need to explore. Going back to cave times we know that men were the hunters and women the gatherers. Women would gather the herbs and grasses in groups. And they would talk. Not just to gossip, it was also for safety. They talked to keep the big bears and cheetahs away. They would also share their intuitions about weather changes or where they “felt” the new berry patches were. So “Chatty Cathy” was probably a revered gatherer in her day.

Now, let’s see how this ancient role of gatherer is still embedded in us today. Research shows that men speak approximately 4000 words a day, women 7000. Translate this to the work world and here is what you get. If you want to meet with your male colleagues at work, do so in the morning. Know that conflict resolution has a better chance of success before two o’clock. And don’t get so aggravated when close to closing time all you get are four word sentences. By late afternoon they have most likely used up their quota of words!

And in your  home life, if you want to talk to your male partner or a son, you really need to have a heart to heart and you want it to be successful, consider Saturday morning as an optimum time.

Sylvia Lafair

Sylvia Lafair, PhD, is President of CEO – Creative Energy Options, Inc., a global consulting company focused on optimizing workplace relationships through her exclusive PatternAware™ Leadership Model. Dr. Lafair is the author of Don’t Bring It to Work: Breaking the Family Patterns That Limit Success published by Jossey-Bass. As an executive coach and leadership educator, she has more than 30 years of experience with all levels of management from leading corporate officers of global companies to executives of non-profits and owners of leading family-owned businesses. She is now offering GUTSY Women Weekends, giving women the opportunity to dialogue and clarify next steps.

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Filed Under: Business Development, Communications, Leadership, Management Tagged With: gender roles

Comments

  1. Training Connection says

    November 2, 2009 at 5:11 pm

    I like this question. According to Gail Evans, who wrote “Think Like a Man, Win Like a Woman,” we are in an environment whose rules were written by men and as we cross over lines in expertise, we may tend to bring some of our nurturing habits to bear on the ‘game’ as men see it- of business. The objective of business is both to grow relationships and to score profit and still, we must find a way to respect communication that does not detriment profit. Its a delicate balance but business communication training can help level the playing field by giving us all the same understood expectations.

  2. Pixie Stevenson says

    November 6, 2009 at 12:59 pm

    I so agree with this! Part of women embracing their power and reaching their full potential is to acknowledge and accept the differences in male & female communication. Discussion is important to women in problem solving. Men just want to hunt it down and kill it.

    Great post!

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