I haven’t read Kelly Cutrone’s new memoir yet, If You Have to Cry, Go Outside: And Other Things Your Mother Never Told You, but the title got me thinking. How many times have I seen women crying on the job? Why would anyone want to stay at a job that brings them to tears??
This got me thinking about a couple of jobs that I had in the past and the several women that I saw crying. This isn’t about women being emotional or not being tough enough to handle the work they were doing. Also, the field of communications and PR is definitely female dominated, so the chance of seeing more women in tears than man in these competitive environments is higher (just wanted to throw that out there to clarify for the feminist in me).
This was about unfair situations and horrible bosses that made these women cry. Now, it’s never professional to cry in the workplace, so I agree with Cutrone’s title – but shouldn’t crying be a sign of a much bigger problem at the workplace? And why isn’t anyone doing anything about it?
I worked in these same environments and experienced the same pressure, stress and injustice as these other women did, but it never brought me to tears – mind you, I didn’t stay at those jobs and I knew I deserved better. But does this point to a bigger problem? Are we ignoring signs that our workplaces are becoming too much to handle? Stress and unhappiness can lead to many health problems you know.
This leaves me wondering, should we leave the jobs that make us cry or is the problem that we just need to suck it up and get tougher?