I use it every day. The more I find myself engaged in relationships that cross both personal and professional boundaries, the less I try to resist. I can also say that the advent of social networking has made building true friendships easier at work where once a line was drawn. And dropping a “love ya,” or a “sending love your way” comment seems to soften those lines even more. Facebook made me do it, I’ll say. Facebook made me love these people!
I enjoy telling people I love them. I think people need to hear it more often. I feel good knowing that if you or I got hit by a bus tomorrow, you would know that I truly cared. I see people hurting in the workplace; whether it be health reasons, family woes or car troubles, and if I think they need an “I’m thinking about your family” or an “I love you,” by golly I’m giving it to them. The bad news is we’ve become such a nation of political correctness that it’s inappropriate to tell people you love them at work. And just like Roberta Flack, I ask, “Where Is the Love?”
Sadly, it’s left Corporate America…and even more disconcerting are the stats that we spend more time with the people we work with than we do with the people we live with. Reports say that the average full-time worker spends 9.3 hours at, and commuting to, work versus the 1.8 hours per day of quality time in the home. Of that “quality time,” .31 hours is spent watching television. Seems to me that a little love just might be what’s missing from the mix.
I was once reprimanded at a corporate job for calling a list of required items needed for a loan closing, a “love note.” Anyone who had ever done business with me knew it was my personal way of lightening up the ugly list of items being requested (demanded) by the underwriters, i.e., 2 years tax returns; 2 months bank statements, pay stubs, etc. Calling it a love note, then asking for all the required documents somehow made the gathering more pleasurable if you can call that task pleasurable. For me, it was an extension of the love and care I took in finding the right loan, communicating positively and making their experience one they’d tell their friends about. For corporate banking, however it was considered a recipe for a lawsuit. I say losing that personal touch is what’s contributed to the demise of the American Dream. The missing ingredient IS love–for what you do, how you do it and how you treat people along the way.
Okay, so you can’t go around telling people you love them all day because 1) they’d think you were certifiable, 2) they’d probably think you were selling Amway (not that there’s anything wrong with that) and 3) they probably are not prepared to reciprocate–which makes for some awkward silence–so here’s my solution:
Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the ways you can, in all the places you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can. As often as you can!
Not my words, but I think John Wesley, founder of the Methodist church, was onto something. The thought and intent behind his words fit any religion or lack thereof. I think his quote DEFINES love.
The basic premise behind the quote has to be the kind of principles this country, and its workforce, were founded on. I say if you can’t say it, show it. And I agree, along with John, Paul, George and Ringo, All You Need is Love!
Natalie MacNeil says
Chrysty, I am the same way with people and that quote is one of my personal favorites. I think women, more than men, show love and compassion in business and too often it is seen as a negative when it should be a positive thing -as long as these women aren’t being taken advantage of which I have seen a lot of. You have to be able to show love and still put your foot down when you need to. I think my personality has helped my business and my clients appreciate the way I deal with people.
I’m curious to hear what other people think about using the L word in business.
She Takes On The World
Thanks for the input sometimes when i put a post out there i wonder if I’m the only one who feels this way it’s nice to know we share the love of love!
Cindy Morris says
I am a HUGE proponent of using LOVE in my business dealings.
We all know the power of love so why not embrace it, live it, and use it in our communication?
Remember what Martin Luther King said:
“Life is the school, Love is the lesson.”
Love is the lesson I like to teach and learn every day.
As women we are in a unique position to introduce love words and love concepts into our business practices because we are the front line, the vanguard, of what business can be, not what it has been but what it can truly be: another vehicle for spreading Love.
I told my staff EVERY day that I loved and appreciated them, because I did!. Now that I am a solopreneur I tell my clients that same thing.
Love is the very essence of the Divine Feminine, which we embody in all its splendor!
with great love and appreciation for the WOMEN on business blog avenue of sharing,
Cindy Morris, msw
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Chrysty Fortner says
“Love is the very essence of the Divine Feminine…” my new mantra! Thanks. C.