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Barriers to Achieving Balance

August 10, 2009 By Susan Gunelius

Post by Jane K. Stimmler, contributing Women On Business writer

Each day, most of us try to achieve the elusive ideal of work/life “balance.”  Sometimes we wonder if it’s even possible.  With all the 24/7 demands of business and family, if you don’t make balance a priority, it is unlikely you will get there.  In Breaking Into the Boys’ Club 2009, we identify some traps women too often fall into when struggling to manage work, family and the rest of their lives. Whatever the particulars of your hectic life, here are some mistakes to avoid.

Feeling (Constantly) Guilty
When you’re at work, you find yourself feeling guilty about not being at home – and when you’re home, you’re obsessed with that meeting you’re missing. You cannot be in two (or three, or four) places at one time, and you need to give all your energy to your present undertaking. Let the guilt go – at least some of it!

Playing the Good Girl
So many of us have been taught to be considerate of others to a fault – even if it means saying yes when we should be saying no or waiting instead of speaking out. If you don’t express your needs and get your voice heard, after a while your frustration level will reach the “bubbling-over” point. It’s going to come out in the wrong place at the wrong time. Be confident enough to express yourself when you feel the need.

Second Guessing Your Life
Just because you’re having a bad day doesn’t mean that you’ve made poor choices, or should question your whole life.  Sometimes when you’re in the midst of a crisis, you’re tempted to make decisions too quickly. At these times, it’s easy to start believing your neighbor’s propaganda about working mothers, or your sister’s criticism of your lifestyle. Don’t allow yourself to fall into that trap. Rely on your instincts to know what’s right for you.

Seeking Perfection
Whether it’s appearance, performance on the job, running a household or running a marathon, many of us are always trying to be “perfect” at whatever we’re doing. The problem is – there’s no such thing! Nobody can be a “10”; it just doesn’t exist.  Aiming for more realistic goals will keep you a lot happier and more productive.

Neglecting ‘You’
When time or energy runs out, the first thing to “slip” is usually – you. Although it’s easier to cancel some of your activities (that hair appointment, time at the gym or your book club) than to disappoint the boss, family or friends, this won’t work on a long-term basis. If you don’t take enough time for you, you’ll begin to wear down and wear out.  Make yourself the priority, and do what is necessary to look and feel

Saying “Yes” (When You Should Say “No”)
Your child’s teacher has asked you to chaperone a class trip. Or perhaps your boss requested that you fill in at a last minute client meeting. Maybe your friend has invited you to a mid-week birthday celebration. How can you say “no?” Or, rather, can you say “yes” and maintain your equilibrium? Developing realistic priorities and being honest about them with others is the key to staying on course.

Going It Alone
As a highly capable person, it’s natural to think “I can handle it myself.”  After all, independence is a highly valued trait – and one which has gotten you far. But there are times when asking for help is both necessary and appropriate.  In both your personal and business life, knowing when to ask for help can truly be a lifesaver when the “to do” list starts to become unmanageable.

Allowing Your Foundation to Crack
Though you have many facets to your life, at the core of it all is your family. Being clear about what’s essential, setting aside time for your most important relationships and developing boundaries to protect your family time are key elements to being happy. Without these, cracks will begin to surface in the foundation of your life and affect everything around you.

How many of these traps can you identify with? More importantly, can you change them?

Susan Gunelius

Susan Gunelius is the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of Women on Business. She is a 30-year veteran of the marketing field and has authored a dozen books about marketing, branding, and social media, including the highly popular Ultimate Guide to Email Marketing, 30-Minute Social Media Marketing, Content Marketing for Dummies, Blogging All-in-One for Dummies and Kick-ass Copywriting in 10 Easy Steps. Susan’s marketing-related content can be found on Entrepreneur.com, Forbes.com, MSNBC.com, BusinessWeek.com, and more. Susan is President & CEO of KeySplash Creative, Inc., a marketing communications company. She has worked in corporate marketing roles and through client relationships with AT&T, HSBC, Citibank, Intuit, The New York Times, Cox Communications, and many more large and small companies around the world. Susan also speaks about marketing, branding and social media at events around the world and is frequently interviewed by television, online, radio, and print media organizations about these topics. She holds an MBA in Management and Strategy and a Bachelor of Science degree in Marketing and is a Certified Professional Career Coach (CPCC).

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Comments

  1. Beth Ward says

    August 25, 2009 at 9:39 am

    Patty: These are spot-on… I can identify with every one of them. Thanks for sharing this quick refresher on the basics. Beth

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